I feel deeply for you. I am really glad that you found joy and healing from Joy.
I had bad karma with guys until a healer removed it when I was 38/39. She said that I needed to forgive my father, which I couldn't understand. I felt that I held no grudge against a biological father I knew little about and didn't care about. I also distrusted her “info”. In any case, I did the ritual she told me to forgive my father. A year later, I met my husband, and life has been more stable ever since (knock on wood).
Thanks so much, Chingmay. What a fascinating story. I’ve also seen a healer. She was extraordinary! My husband has seen a few and had bad energy removed from previous lives. That was eye-opening. Some healers are the real deal, but like anything, some won’t be authentic. I’m so glad your life turned around, Chingmay. How lovely!! 🤍🤍
Marcia, I'm so glad you found someone you resonated with. Being a life coach, I do not hesitate to say "I don't believe we are a good match." I can refer you elsewhere. As you know, it takes a while. You were lucky with #2! Thank you for sharing this personal story. Wishing you peace and "Joy!"
Thanks so much, Suzie. I think it’s amazing that you could say that, as it should be. It would save a whole lot of time if the therapist knew it wasn’t a good match and said so. Brilliant, Suzie. And thank you for reading :)
Hm, made me wonder, for a brief moment (also not a flower being here, although I do love trees and plants...), what flower would I be (represented by)? Gladiolus popped up in my mind, even though I don't buy it. I know it was my mum's favourite flower (bright red ones) so I was clear in my mind not to pick that one. Loved your sharp response/advice to your ex-husband about his fuckedup therapist!!!
Thanks, Alica. The Gladiolus is striking too, I can see that for you as a non-flower person too :) Made me smile. It was a friend I gave the advice to about his fuckedup psychiatrist, not my ex-husband. The friend still kept going anyway—a glutton for punishment. Thanks for reading this one too, Alica. Much appreciated, my friend.
Oh you should see the smile on my face, upon reading your response, dear friend. Oh, thank you for a gentle correction - I get dependent on my brain's memory when writing a comment as can't see the post itself so it's a fun game between my brain's mood...offering me the correct memory or some improvised version of it (yeah, we can call it fiction!). Yeah, not a glutton for punishment, no thanks. I love having fun! Being real. Deep. Authentic. Yes bold at times (I CAN be humble and soft...if I choose/feel like). I also prefer the term counsellour ...being myself an intuitive/cosmic one.
Ah—the voodoo therapy! I’m glad Joy was helpful. The whackos would have been big deterrents for me. Like maybe I’ll come back if the nut jobs get the therapy they need, but probably not. 🤣
😂 And there’s a lot of nut jobs out there Nance. 😖
I just started following this guy and his whole premise is about how a therapists fucked up his life for over a decade. Like proper trauma. Like 60 minutes stuff. I haven’t read his stories yet (only crossed paths with him yesterday) but wow, it sounds scary!
I can't think of a better name for a therapist. Maybe Free?
I've met a few Joy's in my life, and they have been exactly that. I'm sure there are some shitty Joy's out there somewhere though. You deserved a good un!
Or Hope :) Or Faith :) I’m glad you’ve met some Joy’s too, Patrick. I was lucky, huh. Considering where my life was, anything was possible! Thanks for your kind words, P xx
Hey, Mylee! How lovely to see you here. I’m so glad I could inspire you. What have you posted. I’m going to check :) Thanks for stopping by. Miss you! 🤍
I have to say that feeling of being so utterly misunderstood and betrayed by someone felt so real and made me genuinely flinch! But then finding Joy, and the way you described her warmth, and the laugh that made your face feel weird was a tender, hopeful shift. Lovely story, Marce!
Thank you, Diana! What a lovely comment. I'm so glad you enjoyed my story. I'm grateful to you for always finding space for me in your beautiful pub. 💜
And yes, I could've been totally derailed if I'd given up on therapy because of my first experience. What a disaster!
I have known people who have been messed up by therapists for sure, and thank goodness u didn't go down the road of believing her re your Dad abusing you!
I think you are naturally funny without trying :-D it's a talent that comes though in your writing <3
Aw, what a beautiful compliment, May. Thank you so much, kind lady. If we can't find the humour in the chaos, life would be way too long and tedious. I'm grateful to you :) xx
An amazingly insightful story, Marce. Thank goodness you had the smarts to persist after the first disastrous experience. I absolutely love that your flower is the bird of paradise -- so independent and strong, so apt!
THANK YOU for such an intimate and beautiful, well-written article! :) I truly feel like I know a small part of you, and I am grateful for being able to experience a glimpse of your life through your words.
As for the therapy part, it is shameful that “professionals” such as that Psychiatrist are still allowed to practice…you had the power to get past that and try again, but unfortunately, so many people that desperately need therapy shut themselves down because of such awful experiences.
I’m happy you met Joy, though! Congratulations for your courage! Keep on going, Marcia!
Dear Karim, what a beautiful, heartfelt comment, kind man. Thank you so much for taking the time and responding so thoughtfully. I appreciate it more than you can know. 🙌
I feel deeply for you. I am really glad that you found joy and healing from Joy.
I had bad karma with guys until a healer removed it when I was 38/39. She said that I needed to forgive my father, which I couldn't understand. I felt that I held no grudge against a biological father I knew little about and didn't care about. I also distrusted her “info”. In any case, I did the ritual she told me to forgive my father. A year later, I met my husband, and life has been more stable ever since (knock on wood).
Thank you for sharing your healing story. Much ❤️
Thanks so much, Chingmay. What a fascinating story. I’ve also seen a healer. She was extraordinary! My husband has seen a few and had bad energy removed from previous lives. That was eye-opening. Some healers are the real deal, but like anything, some won’t be authentic. I’m so glad your life turned around, Chingmay. How lovely!! 🤍🤍
Thanks so much for reading :))
Marcia, I'm so glad you found someone you resonated with. Being a life coach, I do not hesitate to say "I don't believe we are a good match." I can refer you elsewhere. As you know, it takes a while. You were lucky with #2! Thank you for sharing this personal story. Wishing you peace and "Joy!"
Thanks so much, Suzie. I think it’s amazing that you could say that, as it should be. It would save a whole lot of time if the therapist knew it wasn’t a good match and said so. Brilliant, Suzie. And thank you for reading :)
Hm, made me wonder, for a brief moment (also not a flower being here, although I do love trees and plants...), what flower would I be (represented by)? Gladiolus popped up in my mind, even though I don't buy it. I know it was my mum's favourite flower (bright red ones) so I was clear in my mind not to pick that one. Loved your sharp response/advice to your ex-husband about his fuckedup therapist!!!
Thanks, Alica. The Gladiolus is striking too, I can see that for you as a non-flower person too :) Made me smile. It was a friend I gave the advice to about his fuckedup psychiatrist, not my ex-husband. The friend still kept going anyway—a glutton for punishment. Thanks for reading this one too, Alica. Much appreciated, my friend.
Oh you should see the smile on my face, upon reading your response, dear friend. Oh, thank you for a gentle correction - I get dependent on my brain's memory when writing a comment as can't see the post itself so it's a fun game between my brain's mood...offering me the correct memory or some improvised version of it (yeah, we can call it fiction!). Yeah, not a glutton for punishment, no thanks. I love having fun! Being real. Deep. Authentic. Yes bold at times (I CAN be humble and soft...if I choose/feel like). I also prefer the term counsellour ...being myself an intuitive/cosmic one.
I love your comments, Alica. They always make me smile. I knew you were cosmic ;) It radiates from you, my friend 🌠🤍
Sunflowers get too much attention. They don't do anything. Look, we all know where the Sun is.
Bad therapists would make for excellent Netflix documentaries. 😈
So glad you met a good one though. 🖤
🤣 Hilarious! Stupid sunflowers 🤭 I actually love them 💛
I’d watch that series! I’m sure there is one?
Thanks, Deb 🤍🖤
It is amazing when you find a therapist who sees you. CBT saved my sanity. Thank god you found her. Sending love, Marcia!
Thanks so much, Rea. I’m so glad you found a great therapist too :) Sending love back to you, my friend. 🤍
Ah—the voodoo therapy! I’m glad Joy was helpful. The whackos would have been big deterrents for me. Like maybe I’ll come back if the nut jobs get the therapy they need, but probably not. 🤣
😂 And there’s a lot of nut jobs out there Nance. 😖
I just started following this guy and his whole premise is about how a therapists fucked up his life for over a decade. Like proper trauma. Like 60 minutes stuff. I haven’t read his stories yet (only crossed paths with him yesterday) but wow, it sounds scary!
I can't think of a better name for a therapist. Maybe Free?
I've met a few Joy's in my life, and they have been exactly that. I'm sure there are some shitty Joy's out there somewhere though. You deserved a good un!
Or Hope :) Or Faith :) I’m glad you’ve met some Joy’s too, Patrick. I was lucky, huh. Considering where my life was, anything was possible! Thanks for your kind words, P xx
Wow. I absolutely love this Marce. I have someone similar in my life. You have inspired me once again .x
Hey, Mylee! How lovely to see you here. I’m so glad I could inspire you. What have you posted. I’m going to check :) Thanks for stopping by. Miss you! 🤍
I have to say that feeling of being so utterly misunderstood and betrayed by someone felt so real and made me genuinely flinch! But then finding Joy, and the way you described her warmth, and the laugh that made your face feel weird was a tender, hopeful shift. Lovely story, Marce!
Thank you, Diana! What a lovely comment. I'm so glad you enjoyed my story. I'm grateful to you for always finding space for me in your beautiful pub. 💜
And yes, I could've been totally derailed if I'd given up on therapy because of my first experience. What a disaster!
I have known people who have been messed up by therapists for sure, and thank goodness u didn't go down the road of believing her re your Dad abusing you!
I think you are naturally funny without trying :-D it's a talent that comes though in your writing <3
Aw, what a beautiful compliment, May. Thank you so much, kind lady. If we can't find the humour in the chaos, life would be way too long and tedious. I'm grateful to you :) xx
An amazingly insightful story, Marce. Thank goodness you had the smarts to persist after the first disastrous experience. I absolutely love that your flower is the bird of paradise -- so independent and strong, so apt!
And I know you’re a woman who knows her flowers :) Thanks, Libby. I love that I’m that flower too :) Your kind words are appreciated, my friend 🤍
THANK YOU for such an intimate and beautiful, well-written article! :) I truly feel like I know a small part of you, and I am grateful for being able to experience a glimpse of your life through your words.
As for the therapy part, it is shameful that “professionals” such as that Psychiatrist are still allowed to practice…you had the power to get past that and try again, but unfortunately, so many people that desperately need therapy shut themselves down because of such awful experiences.
I’m happy you met Joy, though! Congratulations for your courage! Keep on going, Marcia!
Dear Karim, what a beautiful, heartfelt comment, kind man. Thank you so much for taking the time and responding so thoughtfully. I appreciate it more than you can know. 🙌
Thanks for being here, Karim :)
It was my pleasure, Marcia! Looking forward to reading more pieces from you! :)