My mom didn't tell me anything. We hardly even talked. It's ok for me because I got her mother, who was like a mom to me. My grandma passed away twenty years ago. As years go by, my mom and I are closer and closer to each other. We can tell each other almost everything now. Similar to your case, she also didn't get the ideal mother-daughter relationship. I am glad the mother-daughter relationship is working better for you and me. I wish the same for other women.
Thank you so much for the kind words! And yes, there are so many layers of emotions and unspoken dynamics at play. I'm glad my writing resonated with your own experiences.
This is a wise and beautiful piece Diana. You're so right to point out that parents are human beings and carry their own issues into the family constellation. Having a child doesn't mean one becomes an automatic sage. It's about role modeling possible choices that can help their child grow and explore their potential.
Your mom profited by your hit and miss trials around your body and personal identity. She merged into the disorder and mirrored your struggles. In the end you both flew free.
Thank you for sharing that. It can be quite isolating when one lacks a strong connection to the mother. But look at us – we've found our own way; we've grown strong. Sending you virtual hugs, Mariana:)
Hi, Diana dear. Came here to collect my favourite Medium gems. Not sure how Substack works but wanted to let you know that I appreciate your work and your stories ❤️❤️
Hi!!! Thank you so much for your kind words and for thinking of me!
I'm still learning the ropes with Substack too, but I'm excited to share more of my writing here. Thank you again for your support. I truly appreciate it.
Diana, you have spoken of your difficult relationship with your parents in other things you have written, and you are living proof that it is possible to learn from these experiences and come out better because of them. You are to be admired for this. Keep writing and believing in yourself.
In Psychology, the mother-daughter relationship is considered the most difficult one.
In many situations, who cannot blame any of the two sides, because yes, each one does their best according to their context at any given time. From what I understood, your relationship became more open, which is definitely a good thing.
I read one of your stories where you mentioned struggling with eating disorder and body image. This is disheartening to see how women in different parts of the world suffer through same issues.
As a teenager, I was always compared to my mom. Everyone would tell me that I don't have the same beauty as hers. As a result of this I spent my entire 20s disgusting my body. I still have not cultivated an unconditional love toward my body, it is hard. Maybe I will get there one day.
Very beautiful piece Diana C parents too have their problems I had though relation with my father he used to put pressure yo follow his path as he wanted me to secure job but I wanted to pursue my dreams but we both had many furious quarrels
But later on I realised he is right I decided to follow my passion apart from it I will secure a job so that I wouldn’t deal with hard time in future , thank you for sharing your story ❤️❤️
My mom didn't tell me anything. We hardly even talked. It's ok for me because I got her mother, who was like a mom to me. My grandma passed away twenty years ago. As years go by, my mom and I are closer and closer to each other. We can tell each other almost everything now. Similar to your case, she also didn't get the ideal mother-daughter relationship. I am glad the mother-daughter relationship is working better for you and me. I wish the same for other women.
My mother-daughter narrative would take a n excyclopedia of work because there are tensions and unspoken drama in it.
This is so beautiful Diana. I felt close to home on this one.
Thank you so much for the kind words! And yes, there are so many layers of emotions and unspoken dynamics at play. I'm glad my writing resonated with your own experiences.
This is a wise and beautiful piece Diana. You're so right to point out that parents are human beings and carry their own issues into the family constellation. Having a child doesn't mean one becomes an automatic sage. It's about role modeling possible choices that can help their child grow and explore their potential.
Your mom profited by your hit and miss trials around your body and personal identity. She merged into the disorder and mirrored your struggles. In the end you both flew free.
Inspiring and so well written. Thank you! 🙏🌹
Thank you, Rebecca! I appreciate it. You're absolutely right, it's a constant learning process for both parent and child.
Thank you again for your insightful and encouraging words. 🙏
I see so many things I can relate to here...
I love my mom, but we have never had a real relationship and communication.
I had to find life truths alone.
Thank you for sharing that. It can be quite isolating when one lacks a strong connection to the mother. But look at us – we've found our own way; we've grown strong. Sending you virtual hugs, Mariana:)
To you too, Diana 🤗
Yes, we learn what they learned and spend our lives unlearning what they never unlearned—while we pass on what we learned and haven’t unlearned…
Indeed, Kat! It's complex. We inherit so many beliefs and behaviors...
We sure do!
Hi, Diana dear. Came here to collect my favourite Medium gems. Not sure how Substack works but wanted to let you know that I appreciate your work and your stories ❤️❤️
Hi!!! Thank you so much for your kind words and for thinking of me!
I'm still learning the ropes with Substack too, but I'm excited to share more of my writing here. Thank you again for your support. I truly appreciate it.
Diana, you have spoken of your difficult relationship with your parents in other things you have written, and you are living proof that it is possible to learn from these experiences and come out better because of them. You are to be admired for this. Keep writing and believing in yourself.
You're right, I've learned a lot from those experiences. Thank you for your support and kind words, James!
About the process of life and family, this article has given various insights, as well as phenomena. Good article. Have a nice day.
In Psychology, the mother-daughter relationship is considered the most difficult one.
In many situations, who cannot blame any of the two sides, because yes, each one does their best according to their context at any given time. From what I understood, your relationship became more open, which is definitely a good thing.
I read one of your stories where you mentioned struggling with eating disorder and body image. This is disheartening to see how women in different parts of the world suffer through same issues.
As a teenager, I was always compared to my mom. Everyone would tell me that I don't have the same beauty as hers. As a result of this I spent my entire 20s disgusting my body. I still have not cultivated an unconditional love toward my body, it is hard. Maybe I will get there one day.
Very beautiful piece Diana C parents too have their problems I had though relation with my father he used to put pressure yo follow his path as he wanted me to secure job but I wanted to pursue my dreams but we both had many furious quarrels
But later on I realised he is right I decided to follow my passion apart from it I will secure a job so that I wouldn’t deal with hard time in future , thank you for sharing your story ❤️❤️