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May More's avatar

The style worked brilliantly for this Diana and i resonate so much with your words and agree - by allowing it to happen we enable them in a way - i have been in those shoes for sure. TY for sharing something so deeply personal

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Diana C.'s avatar

"Enabling them" is exactly it. It's a tough lesson to learn. Thanks for reading and for your kind words! 💜

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Chingmay Anaïs Jo's avatar

This is a literature-level masterpiece. I love every bit of it. ❤️

When I was younger, I also shrank in a few relationships. I am still shrinking in one way but expanding in another. My husband feels the same. I guess that there's just so much space there; we just need to find a good equilibrium for the two parties in a relationship.

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Diana C.'s avatar

You just made my day! 🥰 Thank you, Chingmay. It's a journey, for sure. Thanks for sharing your own experience with me!

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Marie A. Rebelle's avatar

So much of the fragmented piece made me think of some of my previous relationships. This piece made me think of how I changed myself to fit the mold the person expected of me, only to find out after weeks/months/years that I don't want to be in the mold again. Yes, I definitely allowed it to happen, allowed love to shrink me...

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Diana C.'s avatar

We can give so much of ourselves, sometimes too much, in the hope of making things work or pleasing the other person... Thank you for opening up about your experiences, Marie! Hugs.

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Marcia Abboud's avatar

One of the best awakenings I've read, dear Diana. Such a profound observation of that past dysfunctional relationship and what it meant for you and your healing. We're all just here for the lessons and the wisdom. I love this style! Brilliant, Diana 💜

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Diana C.'s avatar

That's so incredibly kind of you to say, Marcia! We really are all here for the lessons and the wisdom, even when they come from challenging places.

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Marcia Abboud's avatar

Exactly, Diana :) 🤍

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Ute Luppertz's avatar

Profound realization ✨

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Diana C.'s avatar

Thank you for reading, Ute! 💜

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James M. Dakis's avatar

Diana, this is a beautiful piece. Thank you for sharing it. Much love, Jim

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Diana C.'s avatar

Thank you for reading, Jim. Greatly appreciate your support.

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Spyder's avatar

Powerful and authentic in style as to how you discover this happening to you. Simply brilliant in its honesty.

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Diana C.'s avatar

Those words truly mean a lot coming from you. Thank youuuu💜

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McK's avatar
May 28Edited

Those clipped sentences made me hold my breath.

Great job.

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Diana C.'s avatar

Thank you so much!

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jybyky's avatar

Knowing yourself is a great essence, among this writing. I like this writing.

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Diana C.'s avatar

Thank you for your kind words!

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Steve's avatar

Perfect description of the airlessness in a relationship.

And it's funny (sad) how you don't notice the red flags until you pass by them.

Like taillights in a mirror.

I feel this story. Thank you for sharing. 💛

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Diana C.'s avatar

Means a lot to me that you "feel this story."Thank you for taking the time to read it and for sharing your thoughts, Steve!

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