That pain and power fueled your purpose. Very hurtful, indeed. Thank you for sharing your voice and story, Suzie. I'd like to read your piece, feel free to share the link here.
This was an incredible read and something that a lot of readers probably need to hear. I was married to a narcissist for 18 years. I know this quiet manipulation all too well.
Since our divorce, he has reclaimed his faith and I have had a hard time believing that his intent in doing so is because of the goodness in his heart… I have always believed your words that I quote below and find much hypocrisy in organized religions…
“Anyone can speak of God. But not everyone walks with Him.”
I would be lying if I didn't admit to knowing what it is like to be on both spectrums of narcissism. But life served me up some humble pie back in the day, and I made the conscious choice to change quickly and authentically. As they say, hurt people, hurt more people.
I know this is why I can easily spot when someone is using controlling tactics. I won't dare say "Maybe he has changed," because in my experience, both personal and observational, people are good at pretending, especially those in their faith. If he has not changed, the cracks will definitely show sooner or later. And that's how you know.
I am glad you took the time to share your truth here, and even happier you did what was best for you. No one should live under the thumb of a manipulator.
You flatter me with your complimentary words. I was scared to release this, to be honest. Although I kept deeper parts of the story under wraps, I felt I was airing dirty laundry that should remain secret. Your comment made me proud that I didn't! Thank you so much, Kali! ❤
Latoya, wow! Reading this, I felt so angry at those subtle, almost invisible moments of manipulation. I've definitely experienced them first-hand. Your decision to give yourself some space by leaving that last message unread was such a brave way of reclaiming your power!
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I grew up with a passive aggressive father. It was very painful & powerful. It is the most hurtful weapon I know.
I, too wrote about a very hurtful friendship.
Stand in your power & listen to your heart which you did.
That pain and power fueled your purpose. Very hurtful, indeed. Thank you for sharing your voice and story, Suzie. I'd like to read your piece, feel free to share the link here.
I deeply appreciate your support and presence.
This was an incredible read and something that a lot of readers probably need to hear. I was married to a narcissist for 18 years. I know this quiet manipulation all too well.
Since our divorce, he has reclaimed his faith and I have had a hard time believing that his intent in doing so is because of the goodness in his heart… I have always believed your words that I quote below and find much hypocrisy in organized religions…
“Anyone can speak of God. But not everyone walks with Him.”
You’re doing a great thing here 🖤
I would be lying if I didn't admit to knowing what it is like to be on both spectrums of narcissism. But life served me up some humble pie back in the day, and I made the conscious choice to change quickly and authentically. As they say, hurt people, hurt more people.
I know this is why I can easily spot when someone is using controlling tactics. I won't dare say "Maybe he has changed," because in my experience, both personal and observational, people are good at pretending, especially those in their faith. If he has not changed, the cracks will definitely show sooner or later. And that's how you know.
I am glad you took the time to share your truth here, and even happier you did what was best for you. No one should live under the thumb of a manipulator.
You flatter me with your complimentary words. I was scared to release this, to be honest. Although I kept deeper parts of the story under wraps, I felt I was airing dirty laundry that should remain secret. Your comment made me proud that I didn't! Thank you so much, Kali! ❤
Latoya, wow! Reading this, I felt so angry at those subtle, almost invisible moments of manipulation. I've definitely experienced them first-hand. Your decision to give yourself some space by leaving that last message unread was such a brave way of reclaiming your power!
Thank you, Diana, for feeling my pain and understanding these
feelings. It's refreshing to use writing as my therapy to release
and find peace. No response is the best response, at times!
I think you are right to step back - Grace is the way to go - wonderfully told
Peace over power. Thank you, May.
Hey! I saw your post pop up on my homepage and wanted to show some support. If you get a chance, I’d really appreciate a little love on my latest newsletter too always happy to boost each other!
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